Tough guys have feelings too5/31/2023 ![]() ![]() ![]() Emily said she had never seen him cry so hard. When Rob saw all those rows and rows of dogs in cages, knowing that most of them would probably be put to death, he began sobbing. With much coaxing, Rob agreed to accompany Emily to the local animal shelter “just to look” at dogs. Rob thought Emily was being unreasonable. Emily thought Rob was being cold and unfeeling. They went through several weekends during which all they did was fight about the dog issue. ![]() In his logical, analytical way, Rob gave her every reason why the timing was not right, for example: How could you show the house with a puppy running around, peeing on the floor? On an intellectual level, Emily knew he was right, but her heart insisted she would be happier with the dog. Emily argued that a dog would provide her with some needed company, and make her feel secure when alone in their home. ![]() At the same time, they argued about whether or not to get a dog. Emily stayed back, preparing their house for a sale. I worked with one couple for whom this was the case: Rob had taken a new job several hours away. Such unplanned, unexpected emotion can often prove overwhelming. Part of the problem for some men may be that they have silenced their feelings for so long that they haven't developed resources for handling them when they do arise. Men’s feelings may take everyone off guard. ![]()
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